Wednesday, May 22, 2013

Wednesday's Winning Words

Sometimes we just dig in our heels when it comes to our kids.  And sometimes, it's not the right time to do it, but it's done so you can't go back.  You KNOW you know what I'm talking about.  So, yesterday was the day that my husband decided that Justus needed to watch the news in the morning, rather than whatever cartoon he wanted to watch (like he does every. other. day).  Yep, yesterday....the day after the EF-5 tornado reigned down and destroyed Moore, Oklahoma.  The day that the news was still talking about 24 children missing and 91 people dead.  That was the day he thought Justus needed to watch and learn about what was going on in the world.  Now, I agree that it's not a bad idea for kids to watch the news from time to time and I even understand that he was wanting to watch it, so for Justus to change the station would have meant that he couldn't keep up with what was happening. 

What neither of us was thinking about at the time is what that meant for me in taking Justus to school that morning.  It is a short one-mile trip from our house to where I drop him off for school.  Usually, it's a mile filled with whatever song Justus wants to listen to, and made up stories of Jedi Knights or warrior ninjas.  Yesterday, it was literally one of the most excruciating one-mile trips of my life.  So many questions, and because of our "daily grind," so little time.

"Mommy, did God make the tornado that destroyed all those homes in Oklahoma?"
 
"Mommy, why did God let all those people get killed?"

"Mommy, did you see that there are still 24 people they can't find?  Are they under all that trash?  Why did God do that?  Did he just mess up and make a mistake?...."

With the little bit of time I had, we talked about God's plan and how we don't understand it but have to have faith in it and you have to see Him in the aftermath rather than in the midst of the tragedy.  But seriously, how do you get a 6 year old to buy into that?  You would think, having experienced the death of a parent at his very same age, and somehow finding my way back to God, that I could explain these things to him.  I have never felt more useless as a parent.  All I could do after he left the car, seemingly satisfied with my answers, was get teary and pray that God would provide me with the words to answer and comfort my child(ren) when these horrible tragedies, which seem to occur all too often these days, happen and strike his heart.  I wanted to sit and talk with him for however long it took to get him to understand, but maybe the beauty of the moment was that is was just that--a moment.  One brief chance to hit the overall theme and then let him go on his way and either think about it more or not.  How much more explanation would have sunk in anyway?  I am certain had I had more time, it would have been much too overwhelming or he would have just tuned out. 

There are so many tough parenting moments and often, like yesterday, they just strike out of nowhere.  We want to be able to make the most of a teaching moment, but it's just not always possible.  Let us understand that, not beat ourselves up about it, and continue to do the best we can.  After all, we are all just fine and we know our parents didn't always have the right answers...

Wednesday, May 8, 2013

Wednesday's Winning Words: First date

I don't mean to sound like a high schooler, but I have to say that I am pretty excited about my date tonight!!  The good news is that my date is excited too, albeit a bit nervous, I think.

The Chick Fil A restaurant near our house is hosting a mother-son Date KNIGHT tonight in homor of Mother's Day, so Justus and I are going after taekwondo.  It's his first "official" date.  We had to make a reservation and there will be table side service.  Be jealous.  Pictures will should follow.

This morning, I reminded him about it and he reminded me that he knew he had to have a good day at school AND taekwondo to get to go.  He got very excited and asked me "Is it a real date?  Like the ones I will go on with my girlfriend???"  I said "Yes, it's a real date and maybe one day when you are older and have a girlfriend, you will go on dates with her too."  to which he replied, "but, I already have a girlfriend!  Addison."

PARDON ME???  As I picked my heart up off the floor, he gleefully rushed off to feed the dogs.  When he came back in, he said "Mom, this is the most excited I've been about a date in my whole life.  I love you!"  Heart mended.  Happy day!

Wednesday, May 1, 2013

Wednesday's Winning Words

I know, I haven't blogged in awhile and this is totally the easy way out, but this has stuck with me since yesterday so I just had to share.  I said that every now and then I would share winning words by other people, so count this as one of those.

So very creepy.  And yet, hilarious!  Kids say the darndest things, don't they??


Creepiest things a child has ever said: